Why my marriage started off chaotic, problematic – Etim Effiong
Without holding back, Nollywood actor Daniel Etim-Effiong opens up about the chaotic foundation of his marriage to his wife, Toyosi.
In a recent interview, the actor delved into the difficulties he faced in navigating his wife’s assertive nature, which initially left him feeling inadequate in his role as a husband.
I’m not used to people having a say… Being with a wife that was so assertive was chaotic for me. I felt I was losing my grip on the marriage. I felt I wasn’t being a man or a husband, and it messed with my mind,” he said.
Etim-Effiong also acknowledged that his interactions with numerous women and a lack of clear boundaries added to the conflicts in his marriage.
He admitted struggling with inappropriate calls and relationships during the early days of his union but noted that learning to set boundaries eventually brought clarity and stability.
“Of course there were issues with women all around me and I didn’t know how to set boundaries at the time as well so I was just like all over the place.
“It was later I started to learn about boundaries that I actually need to draw the line and say it’s not okay that you can call me at funky hours of the night, she might be your friend but it’s not okay, you’re married now, things like that for example. So the issues went on and on, we’d quarrel,” he added.
Watch the video below …
Daniel Etim Effiong: Being with a wife that is assertive was chaotic for me.
This clip from an interview in November gives us more insight into the dynamics of their marriage.
I hope they both get better at this marriage thingy. pic.twitter.com/MZB6S8xJTw
— Julez♐️ (@JulezJakez) December 18, 2024